To counter the potential negative vibes of this post, I would like to start with the following awesome video.
If you haven't watched it, stop reading and go watch it.
If you didn't smile you may be dead.
Alright. My life is semi-crazy right now, yet at the same time I'm frustrated because not enough is happening. Figure that one out... I guess maybe I'm tired of the craziness of this particular phase of life and want to move on to the next, supposedly calmer phase? Right now I'm trying to get (a) job(s). Substitute teaching will be one, but it's possible that I won't have that licensure until another three months! So in the mean time, I need lots of something. Called like twelve classy restaurants, applied to half a dozen places online. Scored an interview for an occasional babysitting job and one for a housekeeping job. Between the two, maybe... $75/mo? :-P Ideally I'd like to move out soon, so I'm going to need a bit more than that.
So, the other thing I've been doing is checking out potential housing. Seems fairly cheap, until you add utilities. And take out taxes from your paycheck. And my friend tells me you should get renter's insurance? Oh and several hundred $$$ to take the dogs with me. And a deposit! So. Yeah. If any of you rent, how easy or difficult have you found it to be, to make ends meet?
I'm having drama problems with the guy I've been dating. :( His ex talked to someone that talked to an adult friend of mine who I'm very close to, and basically these people weren't very fond of him. Well, we all know his ex not very reliable. I personally would not want any of my guy friends involved with her. So, I don't trust her word. Plus she's his ex!! However, I guess these were concerns raised during the actual relationship, and they were anger related. Coming from a home where that has sometimes been an issue, I'm freaked out about possibly getting into a bad relationship. Once you're in, it's harder to see what's really going on, and it's hard to get back out. Do I think he'd hurt me? No. Do I think it could be an unhealthy relationship? ... I don't know? The things I've seen don't indicate that. But the two things I have to go off of are my own observations over like three weeks, and the word of his scoundrel of an ex, passed through two more people. Yet, the sorts of things they said.. if I knew they were true, I wouldn't even consider this relationship. So I feel super conflicted. Don't know what to think, you know?
I like a lot of things about him and we click really well. So.... for now I think my plan is to get to know him better, keep it pretty casual, let time work its magic.
I hate gossip.
As someone who has been in an abusive relationship, I feel the need to say that not all exes are crazy exes when they're giving you a warning. Not that I know anything about the guy you are seeing or his ex, but when someone warns you about a potential anger issues in the past, I would advise taking them seriously. I know my ex tells people that I'm a bitch and that I'm crazy, but that's because I finally had the balls to stand up to him and demand respect and proper treatment, and it's also so that he can possibly discredit the things that I might say about him to other people. Not all crazy exes are actually the crazy ones. My ex used to tell me all sorts of stories about how awful and crazy his exes were, and, I think that if I had had any contact with any of them, they may have tried to warn me. Think of yourself in the same situation, wouldn't you want to warn others, as well? I just recommend being careful and taking things slow and to keep your eyes peeled for signs that something may be amiss. He could turn out to be a really sweet and amazing guy, and, if that's the case, rejoice, because maybe his ex was just jealous that you got him and she didn't!
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ReplyDeleteI appreciate your input! One thing that is important to note is that my opinion of the ex in question is formed based on my experiences with her and what every other person who knows her has said; the guy I'm dating has said very very little negative about her. Even when we talked about these ugly rumors, he didn't say anything about the kind of person she was or something like that. So at least I am encouraged in the difference that he isn't the one that told me his ex was crazy; I already knew from my own experience! haha.
Ah, well that's good! That's definitely a good sign that he's not badmouthing her, that your opinion is drawn from your own experiences with her. I really hope things turn out great for you!
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